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Are You a Relationship Person?

Last night I opted to push my tempo run to tonight, so that I wouldn’t be taking two rest days off in a row or running too many consecutive days.  Instead I decided to do some yoga stretches for my hamstrings and hips, and foam rolling for my IT band.  The yoga ultimately led to some gymnastics, because I got curious to see what I could still do.  I was a gymnast from the ages of 5-12, took a break in high school, and joined the team for one year in college.  Gymnastics was always my favorite passion, but I unfortunately had to give up my dream after realizing that 5’8″ is just a little too tall for the sport.  This is the art of mastering a handstand while using your cameras self timer.

 

aah going over

coming down

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

got it!

 

Pumpkin is unimpressed.  She was however, loving pouncing on my feet every time I kicked up or came down.  Oh and chewing on the hair from my ponytail that hung down.  I’m surprised she didn’t get kicked or stepped on.  Oh, this is also why I loved keg stands in college, haha.  Handstands and walking on my hands were always my specialty in gymnastics, I used to be able to go up and down the floor multiple times.  I miss those days.  And I did try to keep my shirt tucked in, but it just wasn’t staying. Oh well.

Marie, don’t yell at me, I didn’t get to watch RHPS yet.  I swear I plan on watching tomorrow night while baking cookies and drinking pumpkin beer.

The other day I got to thinking, there are two types of people out there.  Relationship people and non-relationship people.  There was a time in my life, right after my parents divorce, when I was convinced I was a non-relationship person.  I didn’t want to get married, I didn’t want kids, I didn’t want to date, and I definitely didn’t want to end up divorced.  Turns out I was just delusional, because I think the longest amount of time I have ever been single is about 3 months.

I am most definitely, a relationship person.  I thrive in relationships, I enjoy the companionship, compatibility with another person, having someone depend on me, and being able to depend on someone else.  My first boyfriend was in the 6th grade, we dated for a few months before he broke up with me.  We got back together for a little while the next year, and I then I broke up with him.  The next boy came along when I was in 8th grade and he was a freshman in high school.  We also dated for a few months before breaking up, I think he broke up with me but I can’t remember for sure.

My first serious relationship started at the end of my Freshman year of high school and lasted until the August before my Junior year, when I ended it.  Then there was The German, who you read all about in my teenage drama saga.  We started dating in the fall of my Junior year and I ultimately broke up with him during the spring of my Sophomore year of college.  The next boy who came along, I only officially dated for about 4 or 5 months.  I say officially because despite only having the relationship title for a few months, it continued off and on unofficially for almost 3 years.  He was the first boy to really break my heart, and was the hardest break-up for me to move on from, and always the one I went back to after break-ups with other guys.

Towards the end of Junior year of college, I met a boy on spring break, and that relationship was probably my shortest.  Despite being loved by all my friends, the guy wasn’t right for me and I called it quits after like two weeks.  My next relationship started in the fall of Senior year of college, and lasted until around February, again with me initiating the break-up.  I didn’t have another “official” boyfriend until the fall after graduating from college, that’s when I met my most recent ex.  We dated from September 2007 until June 2009, I broke up with him once in the spring before he officially ended it that June.  I met Alex one month later, we started dating in August, and the rest is history!

I’ve had a lot of relationships, but I’ve learned something about myself from each one.  Mostly that I am indeed a relationship person.  Are you all the non-relationship type, or the relationship type?

One more day until the weekend and a fun-filled Halloween holiday.  By the way, I totally miss the days when I was in school and had off because the day after Halloween is a holy day of obligation.  One good thing about 9 years of Catholic school.

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32 Responses

  1. I am def a non-relationship person. I never had boyfriends in middle school and my first boyfriend was in 9th grade that lasted about 5 months. My parents always had strict rules about me dating before I was 16 and since I was young for my grade it was Junior year before I was even allowed. I dated/argued with one guy from junior year up until last christmas but it wasn’t anything SERIOUS, it was never love. In college I had 1 boyfriend and a series of hook-ups, and now the idea of dating makes me a little nervous…I’m so inexperienced and don’t even know where to start. I move around too much so it’s a little difficult to get into a serious relationship, and my luck is that every guy I like is emotionally not ready! 🙂

    • You will find a guy someday when you are ready and he is emotionally ready too! Dating is nerve racking if it’s been awhile since you’ve done it.

  2. I am a relationship person. I’ve been in a relationship for almost five years now that I truly forget what it feels like to be single. Don’t get me wrong I had my moments where I enjoyed being single but I would much rather be in a relationship 🙂

  3. I am almost positive I would never be able to do a handstand. There’s waaaaay too much coordination involved.

    I’m really not sure where I fall in that category? I mean, I’ve been single for the better part of 4 years (a few months here and there but nothing I would consider all that serious even when I wished it were). But before the 4 years, I was with a guy for a little over 3 years. So I don’t know. I’m very independent and self-sufficient (being as how it’s been 4 years)- so even though I’m open to being in a serious relationship, it’s going to take a serious amount of adjusting…

    • I will teach you amy, I have confidence you can do it!

      You just need to find someone that will allow you to be your sassy self-sufficient self!

  4. Haha, okay! You’ll definitely want to be drinking when you watch it. 😉

    I guess since I’m married I better say relationship person, eh?

  5. I’ve never been able to do a handstand. I’m officially impressed. 🙂

    I’m not sure if I’m a relationship person. I realize I’ve been in one for 3 years, but I’m not very good at it. And before I met my boyfriend I was on a “man fast”. I had recently been told by an ex (that I never officially dated, but saying we did sounds better) that “it wasn’t as good” with me as it was with his ex. Yah . . . Kind of scarred me for life.

    • It was ingrained in my head from the age of five on, I’m hoping I never lose the ability, haha.

      Ugh, I remember you saying that before, that’s a mean and ridiculous thing for a person to say. Seems like you and your bf work now though.

  6. That is one sweet caboose you got there.

  7. Totally a relationship person. I’ve been single like…never. Yep, I am that annoying person who married her boyfriend from freshman year of college. 🙂

    I think we should just go ahead and hand you the ULS11 kegstand award. I know I don’t stand a damn chance!

  8. Yeah, I’m definitely a relationship person too…which I guess means it’s a good thing that I’m married, ha 🙂

  9. very nice form!! I love doing handstands still!

    I guess Im a relationship person–ive been in two long ones–one for 2 years and now for 4 years.

    I had a couple of boyfriends in highschool but i just wasnt really into them and cant even remember how long they lasted—i truly think id be ok being single–i like that too 🙂

    • Thank you, isn’t it so much fun? A good party trick also, haha. What else can you still do?

      I suppose in my current relationship I have the aspect of single and relationship life since we’re long distance and only see each other a few times a month.

  10. Yeah, I hate people. That should answer that.

    I’ve only *publicly* referred to one person as a “boyfriend” and it felt wrong wrong wrong. I HATED IT. And the horrible thing is, that thing lasted for quite awhile (despite the fact that I suspected he was gay and using me as a beard ;p) and I’ve run into people from college who asked if I was still with the douchenozzle. Really? I want to puke just thinking about it.

    Since then, if I’ve had anything to disrupt my singleness…nobody knows. I’m all secretive and its far more interesting that way. ;p

  11. I love being in a relationship. I’m a giving and caring person so I enjoy having someone to give my attention to and do nice things for. I also like monogamy. But… I’ve now been single for three years and I love that too. So I think I’m both!

  12. After every break up and heartache, i always say that i’m done and not doing it anymore. And then I meet someone else.. the only exception is one ex i have. We dated for only a couple of months but like you mentioned, its gone on for over a year. I just can’t let him go and no one else compares to him, no matter how great they are. And I’ve met a LOT of guys.. but they just don’t quite measure up.

    • Awww girl, sometimes the hardest part is letting go of that one guy who you know it will never work with. Once I finally accepted the fact that mine wouldn’t ever want to be with me the way I did with him it was so much easier to move on and find someone else to be happy with.

  13. I’m most definitely a relationship person. I am a nurterer by nature so I love having someone that I can spoil and I love being spoiled myself 🙂 Plus I crave affection, so when I’m not in a relationship, I feel lonely.

  14. Before this year without question I would have definitely called myself a relationship person. Starting from 8th grade I was in a 3 year relationship, then a year and a half, then a 5 year relationship and then a 2 year relationship. I wasn’t trying to be in long term relationships it just happened that way. I was always pretty happy in them, thrived and ended most of them (minus the last one) because we either grew apart/or just grew into different people.

    But for the last year I have been single and I guess I’m surprised at how much I thrive being single too. I think there are perks to both but I would definitely be in another relationship (and hopefully married) one day – just needs to be the right guy for my status to change. Hopefully one of those comes around soon 🙂

  15. i love your blog, you are awesome, that is all. 🙂

  16. I’m really not a relationship person. In fact, my husband was really my only serious relationship. Before him, I just casually dated a lot.

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